Do you long to be liked by others? Work hard on your friendships, try to be a good listener, try to be understanding and empathic — all in the hope that other people will like you more? Sadly, when all your energy goes toward pleasing others, you’re likely to get the opposite in return. How […]
A Parent Bully Learn to Bully at Home We’ve all witnessed children or teenagers disrespecting their parents: They yell at them, curse at them, and even hit them. You may shake your head, cancel playdates, or forbid your children from hanging out with such a terror, but the problem is bigger than you think: Kids […]
Freud wrote “Analysis is, in essence, a cure through love.” What did he mean? You share your dreams, fantasies, and longings; unearth your ambitions and passions, and spill your deepest, darkest secrets, while your therapist listens intently, captivated, hanging on your every sigh. After such cozy and intimate attention, many people are left wondering: “Are […]
Soul singer Bobby Harden explains why singing the blues is good for you Broke, broken-hearted, or betrayed? Don’t fret, there’s a blues song for every hardship in life. But did you know that singing the blues is actually good for you? Earlier this year I caught legendary soul singer Bobby Harden in his recent show […]
Is your kid’s happiness short lived or long lasting? Admit it, you love to see your kid happy; your home is filled with smiling photos grinning from your computer screen, bookshelves, even your refrigerator door. Everyone wants to raise a happy child. But when it comes to raising children, are all forms of happiness equal? […]
Bestselling author Paul Smith teaches parents how to encourage hesitant children Bestselling author Paul Smith knows a lot of ways of encouraging hesitant kids, 101 ways to be precise. In his book PARENTING WITH A STORY, Paul documents 101 inspiring lessons to help kids build the kind of character that they and their parents can […]
Peace activist Daisaku Ikeda’s newly published parenting book Admit it, you love to see your kids happy; your home is filled with photos of your smiling children; you see their grinning faces peering out from computer screens, bookshelves, even your refrigerator door. It’s a universal truth that every parent loves to see his or her […]
For millions of vacationing, carefree children the phrase “back-to-school” provokes mass hysteria. Now with September just around the corner, it’s time for parents to put away the beach umbrella, sunblock, and brace for impact. How can you make the back-to-school transition less of a trip to crazy town? Soothing Back-to-School Angst Anxiety is driven by […]
…and the one factor tied to virginity loss two years earlier than average. When I lead parenting workshops, I can feel the anxiety in the room spike when the issue of teen sex is raised. Mothers and fathers often get anxious when they see their teenagers—specifically their darling sons or daughters—morph into sexual beings. One […]
Psychotherapists have long believed that a relationship that you choose reflects your feelings about yourself. For example, if you don’t value yourself, your friends won’t either. They won’t think twice about standing you up, phoning at the last minute to cancel plans, or forgetting to contact you altogether. They don’t consider your feelings or needs. […]
