“I’m bored.” Someone announces boredom, and we barely notice. It’s a phrase used so frequently by friends, loved ones, or strangers that it barely registers. What kind of boredom is it? A call for help? An expression of fatigue? A form of blame? The internal world of boredom Boredom springs from an internal state of […]
There is no shortage of tragedy and emotional agony in life. It’s difficult to imagine any time in recent history when so many hardships confronted us and altered the way we live. Wearing masks in public and educating our children online have nearly become routine. But there are 2020 images that will forever remain distressing: […]
You don’t want someone to lie to you; no one does. Yet, eventually, someone will hurt you with a lie. Whether you see it coming or not, it doesn’t matter. You still feel devastated. Sometimes the hurt is so bad, you wonder if you will be the same again. Few things are as painful as a […]
How do teachers use online learning to engage all kinds of learners? One of the biggest challenges of teaching is the reality that children have vastly different ways of learning. Online learning has added to that challenge with the question: I sat down with Marce Lotito, nurse, health coach, certified Ashtanga Yoga instructor, and loving […]
An essential part of recovery is recognizing and labeling the “voice of the addiction” inside your head. Though addiction can take many forms, the voice of addiction is startlingly the same. The following letter comprises many letters that people in recovery wrote to the addict’s voice inside them. While working in group therapy, in conjunction […]
That empty feeling in a relationship is often caused by unresolved wounds from the past and cannot be filled by a romantic partner. When people expect a relationship to meet all their emotional needs, they make three common mistakes: confusing relationship problems with self issues, having unrealistic expectations and needing constant validation. Watching out for […]
Living with self-shame is like having a 24-hour critical inside your head. That toxic self-shaming voice seeks to limit you, hold you back, and defer growth. Left unchecked, it eats away at your self-worth, undermines your confidence, and can morph into crippling anxiety that destroys any chance of lasting happiness. Where does self-shaming come from? […]
Unfortunately, the term “ghosting” continues to gain popularity, particularly on social media platforms and dating apps. You know the routine: you participate in a virtual conversation, it seems to be going well, and suddenly—poof!—the other person goes silent, disappearing into cyberspace and leaving you wondering: “What happened?” Ghosting can happen in established relationships as well. […]
There are no shortages of tragedies in life. Yet 2020 proved to be a landmark year for pain and heartbreak. It’s difficult to imagine any time in recent history when so many hardships confronted us and altered the way we live. Wearing masks in public and educating our children on-line have nearly become routine. But […]
Why do some office relationships deteriorate into high school histrionics, complete with backstabbers, gossipers, seducers, and drama queens? Is there a way to thrive at the office when relationships turn toxic? Group dynamics at the office As a group therapist, I’ve spent a lifetime studying the dynamics that emerge in groups. I’ve witnessed people who […]
