Our language is filled with negative psychosomatic references to stress: “My boss is a pain in the neck.” “My co-worker gives me a headache.” “My ex-boyfriend makes me sick to my stomach.” Often we attempt to push unwanted feelings—such as irritation, fear, sadness—out of our awareness. We associate such feelings with hopelessness or powerlessness. So, […]
That tension you feel in your neck? It has more meaning that you think, It was a moment that changed my life. It was about twenty years ago, and I was a patient in a therapy group led by Dr. Louis Ormont, a pioneer of American group therapy. I was discussing the devastating death of […]
When someone asks you a favor, do you readily agree and later regret it? Perhaps you say yes when you really wanted to say no? Afterward, do you feel victimized, lament your decision, or bemoan your fate? If you answered yes to the questions above, congratulations—you’re a people pleaser. You go out of your way […]
Self-critical people suffer from depression Have you ever wanted to try something new and a voice inside you says, “Who do you think you are? You can’t do that.” So you give up without even trying? Self-critical voices are a major driving force behind all types of mood problems; those annoying inner detractors condemn and […]
