… and the good news and bad news about dealing kids who bully their parents. All children have unique personalities and temperaments, but kids who bully their parents have very particular traits and three most prevalent styles: 1. The Defiant Bully The most challenging of the bullying personality types, these in-your-face kids are exceedingly confrontational […]
The Bully Test for Parents It’s the end of a long day. You’ve just arrived home from work, completely exhausted. You flip on the TV, collapse on the sofa, and catch the end of your favorite program. You savor this quiet time. Just then, your child begins to whine and carry on. He wants a […]
1. Not Setting Limits Can you believe that there was a time when people didn’t spend hours of their day staring into glowing screens? Phones never left the house, television put itself to sleep at night, and computers were just fancy typewriters. Technology didn’t come with you to the playground, school or on a family […]
An Ode for Mother’s Who Cook from the Heart Every memory of my mother leads back to my childhood kitchen. Before the cooking channel, before The Joy of Cooking, before celebrity chefs battled like samurai or gladiators, there was my mom, the original culinary warrior, standing over a vat of her latest creation, hollering: “Come […]
Turn Disappointment into a Springboard for Growth As a parent, you never want to see your child experience pain. Pain can occur both physically and emotionally—both are equally challenging. One of the most difficult experiences for a child is disappointment. Children can be very enthusiastic, looking forward to events, activities or achievements. When their hopes […]
Left untreated, parent abuse is certain to get worse over time. It happens all the time. Parents arrive in my office in a state of shock, wondering how their sweet, adorable child morphed into a domestic tyrant. Which raises an important question: Is parent abuse normal? Let’s look at some basic child psychology and see […]
What’s missing from your kid’s life could make all the difference. During my twenty years as a psychotherapist working with young people and their parents, I’ve witnessed certain youth make sudden leaps in maturity that catapulted them far ahead of their peers. In fact, their amplified sense of well-being astonished me and their parents. What […]
Published in Issues in Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy, Vol. 38 During adolescence, teens confront complex feelings toward their parents and find themselves caught in an anxiety-fueled dilemma: the wish to reject or distance themselves while they are unavoidably dependent on them and yearning for their approval. This clash of impulses fuels adolescent separation anxiety. What is the […]
Good Parenting Rarely Comes Naturally Parenting takes years of hard work, and even then we all make mistakes. Parenting tests you on every level: emotionally, physically, financially, even spiritually. Though there are no shortcuts to good parenting, there are qualities that you can cultivate that will improve your parenting dramatically. What are these qualities? Glad […]
Excerpt from WHEN KIDS CALL THE SHOTS, Chapter Three: Bullying at Home: How We Become Our Kids’ Victims Over the years, as I listened to bullied parents’ stories, I began to recognize many common experiences about bullying. Though bullied parents come from difficult cultures and communities, I’ve identified the three most common scenarios that contribute […]
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